Let's break up with the idea of The Ex

Wow. Stumbled upon this post with pictures of Delia D. Blackburn Photography; Todd Bachman, father of the bride, brought his daughter to the beginning of the aisle...he stopped the procession while people were confused at his actions and he walked up to his daughter's stepfather. Todd reached out his hand and grabbed Brittany's stepfather and pulled him down the aisle to walk their daughter down the aisle together...

This is what Relationships can be about: in so many forms, really RELATING to one and another, from a source of love instead of fear. Let's forget about the limiting negative concept of 'Ex vs. New Lover', and embrace the fact that both the Ex and the New Lover have shared/share the love for the same important person(s) in their lives, so they are in a special way quite like each other. The Ex is the one who brought your New Lover on his/her way to you. The New Lover of your Ex might bring him or her to a new place of happiness. Therefore, the Ex and New Lover don't have to become BFF's, but to honor both the Ex of your New Lover, as the New Lover of your Ex is a liberating experience of love.

Please feel free, if you feel like (daring) it; share this message with the name(s) of your (New Lover of) Ex(es), in order to honor them!

Yes, I do

On April 11, 2009 I said "Yes, I do" to my First Big Love. Today, exactly 5 years later, I signed the last papers to let go of him and the house we built. On the way up to the notary I cried of sadness and mourning. Letting go hurts. On the way back I cried of happiness and gratitude. Loving is pure joy. There is so much Love. I am proud of him, thanks to his Love we where able to let each other go within this Love, and therefore to stay part of each other’s lives. I am proud of myself, that I had the courage to follow my path and heart towards myself and my Now Big Love. And I am proud of him; thanks to his Love we are so happy together now. Yesterday we sat down with the three of us and had beers. This week I paid off all my depts of the house and I turned 34 years old; a new year. And now, I will drive to my dad, the First Man in my life, to bring him my Love and his Birthday blessings. And I will drive smiling.

Today I say "Yes, I do" to Love itself.

And "Thank you" to all the men in my life. Who guide me, teach me, strengthen me, love me. This is an ode to you. Especially Erik Triesscheijn, Vincent Breedveld and Bram van Alphen. And my buddy Jarr Geerligs too. They are Love.